tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-55879466156552209942024-03-13T07:28:59.168-07:00Living With An Aspergers PartnerHelp for couples who are experiencing relationship difficulties related to Autism Spectrum Disorder [Level 1].Unknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5587946615655220994.post-82000987369633643432016-01-14T09:36:00.013-08:002022-09-09T07:33:35.373-07:00Living With An Aspergers Partner: eBook, Audio Instruction, and Couples Counseling<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: center;" trbidi="on">
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Research reveals that the divorce rate for people with <u>ASD-Level 1</u> (Aspergers or high-functioning autism) is around 80%. <i>Why so high!?</i> The answer may be found in how the symptoms of the disorder affect intimate relationships.</div>
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People with Aspergers or high-functioning autism (HFA) often find it difficult to understand others and express themselves. They may seem to lose interest in people over time, appear aloof, and are often mistaken as self-centered, vain individuals.</div>
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A person with the disorder may have trouble understanding the emotions of their partner, and the subtle messages that are sent by facial expression, eye contact and body language are often missed. Because of this, a person with Aspergers might be seen as egotistical, selfish or uncaring.</div>
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These are unfair labels, because people on the autism spectrum find it very difficult to understand other people's emotional states, and they are usually shocked, upset and remorseful when told their actions were hurtful or inappropriate!<br />
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<b>Imagine a movie that begins with the following scene: <i>A woman enters a bedroom, walks around in it, open a few drawers, and then leaves.</i></b></div>
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Most people could not witness this scene without thinking about the woman's behavior. For example, maybe she was looking for something she thought was in the bedroom ...or maybe she heard something in the bedroom and wanted to find out what made the noise ...or maybe, we might even imagine, she had intended to go into the kitchen and forgot where she was going.</div>
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All these explanations are based on our inferences about the woman's mental state. What we are attempting to do, in essence, is read her mind. Most of us engage in such mind-reading all the time. Without it, we would be "mind-blind," unaware of other people's mental existence, of the existence of thoughts, emotions, intentions, knowledge and memories. We would be unable to make sense of the actions of others -- a terrible dilemma for members of a social category called “Aspies.”</div>
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Tragically, “mind-blindness” is not a piece of science fiction. For people with Aspergers – a condition that often interferes with, among other things, the ability to develop normal human relationships – “mind-blindness” is all too real.</div>
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Being involved in a successful romantic relationship can be difficult for anybody! Consider all the breakup self-help books available, the movies portraying cheating on a wife or husband, constant fighting and dramatic breakups, and your own relationship history. Do you think these difficulties increase or decrease for someone with Aspergers? Let’s just say that, for people who have this condition, it’s not easy to have a relationship while trying to function “normally” in the world.</div>
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Living with a developmental disorder is harder on the sufferers as they tackle their perfectionism and obsessive behavior, but it can also be a struggle for the people who are close to them. Living with the symptoms associated with the condition can be emotionally draining on the sufferer and his/her partner. A person with Aspergers may find "empathy" a foreign emotion, causing the other partner to feel isolated and alone. For example, a woman in love with a man on the autism spectrum may interpret his difficulties with communication and socialization as a lack of interest in the relationship. He may vacillate between being gentle and caring to seeming cold and distant. She may find his behavior hard to understand, resulting in feelings of loneliness, isolation and confusion.</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br />
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<b>Testimonial: </b><i>Dear Mr. Hutten, my name is Kim. My husband has Aspergers. We have only known this for about 6 months now. For years I felt desperate to figure him out. To fix our problems and be happy again. Since finding your book and audio files I feel hope for the first time in a very long time. While we sat listening to the audio files it was like you did a personal case study on us! Afterwards I broke down crying! We finally felt hopeful in fixing our badly damaged relationship. Getting my husband, Jayson, to do anything outside his obsessions is nearly impossible. So at first I just prayed. Turns out I did not need to worry. He was actually reading the book on his own! I was reading the book as well. Within the first week things improved more than they had in years! Each day things get better and better. I am able to understand him better now. He has been giving me the things I need like compliments and cuddles. He initiated intimacy for the first time in so long! I felt the need to reach out and just let you know our progress and tell you that there is no way to thank you enough. Your book has saved our relationship. With so much love! ~ Kim </i></div>
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<b>Testimonial:</b> <i>I have a wonderful marriage, but I still found so much valuable info in your ebook. Sometimes we get so caught up in what we
think is "real" that we lose sight of the truth. Once again, thank you for these relationship techniques specific to the Aspergers condition. ~ Irene</i></div>
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<li style="text-align: justify;">A sense of isolation, because the challenges of their relationship are different and not easily understood by others</li>
<li style="text-align: justify;">After accepting that their partner's disorder won't get better, common emotions include guilt, despair and disappointment</li>
<li style="text-align: justify;">Difficulties in accepting that their partner won't recover from this condition</li>
<li style="text-align: justify;">Failure to have their own needs met by the relationship</li>
<li style="text-align: justify;">Feeling overly responsible for their Aspergers/HFA partner</li>
<li style="text-align: justify;">Frequent wondering about whether or not to end the relationship</li>
<li style="text-align: justify;">Frustration, because problems in the relationship don't seem to improve despite great efforts</li>
<li style="text-align: justify;">Lack of emotional support from family members and friends who don't fully understand or appreciate the extra strains placed on a relationship that involves an autism spectrum disorder </li>
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<i>One wife of an Aspergers man tells her story as follows:</i></div>
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<span style="color: #274e13;"><b>"My husband, Jason, has been hard to live with. He can be charming and humorous, but he also tends to be callous, self-centered, and indifferent. When my children were small, I centered on them so Jason's indifference did not trouble me. But now that they are gone, he is truly driving me insane.</b></span></div>
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<span style="color: #274e13;"><b>I met Jason when I was 17. He was good looking, brilliant and sincere -- and we fell in love fairly quickly. We were quite different from one another, but I believed that my strengths balanced his weaknesses. I was structured and, I admit, just a little bossy. Jason was the absent-minded professor type. He was studying for a degree in graphics, and at times would work the whole night, failing to eat or sleep. He was a lost puppy that I wanted to save.</b></span></div>
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<span style="color: #274e13;"><b>We had been going out for two years when I found out I was pregnant. We got married. After Laura and Jeremy were born I stayed home until they were in school, then I went to work part-time at a nearby retail store. However, the children were always my top priority, and I centered virtually all of my energy on them.</b></span></div>
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<span style="color: #274e13;"><b>Jason and I have been having problems since the children were small. He did not know the first thing about caring for kids -- not even how to use a thermometer! He never could deal with any noise or disarray. If the children did not put their toys away, he would throw a fit. He would go crazy if plans changed suddenly. Worst of all, he never really bonded with our kids.</b></span></div>
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<span style="color: #274e13;"><b>One time, when Laura was in junior high school, she came home full of pride over a sketch of a boy's face she had drawn in art class. Rather than telling her how fantastic it was, Jason informed her that the proportions of the face were all wrong: ‘Laura, you have to learn the fundamentals of physiology. The head is divided into five parts.’ Who talks to a child that way? She was in tears.</b></span></div>
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<span style="color: #274e13;"><b>From time to time, the quirky Jason I fell deeply in love with resurfaced, such as when Jeremy was in a medical facility for 3 months with a broken leg. He was 15 then, and Jason was at his bedside every single day. He actually broke down and purchased the bicycle that Jeremy wanted and took a photo of it. He gave the picture to Jeremy to keep at the hospital as 'incentive to get well.' Initially I believed it was crazy -- the child was in a body cast! But it proved helpful.</b></span></div>
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<span style="color: #274e13;"><b>Mainly though, Jason seems to live in his own world. I look after everything from finances to maintenance tasks because he cannot be trusted to complete anything. He cannot even maintain employment. He is usually butting heads with employers and co-workers. Not surprising, really. Jason has never been able to cope with people. If we go to an evening meal with close friends, he will not even look at them. If anyone asks him a question, he starts off on an endless rant. I am working two jobs now, but he seems completely unconcerned about how exhausted I am.</b></span></div>
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<span style="color: #274e13;"><b>Just as I arrived at the breaking point, an associate gave me some articles regarding Aspergers that blew me away. Those who have it are perfectly intelligent -- a number of them are in fact very talented -- but have difficulty conversing and bonding. Due to the way their brain develops, they cannot read interpersonal cues and frequently behave inappropriately or do not understand everyday conversation. The outline of the disorder matches Jason completely.</b></span></div>
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<span style="color: #274e13;"><b>I'm not sure exactly where we go from here, though. If he does have Aspergers, it might explain his annoying habits. But will that make it any simpler to accept? You never know. Jason and I have a lengthy history. Deep down I realize we love one another. But unless something changes soon, I am going to lose my mind." ~ Shannon T.</b></span><br />
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<span style="font-size: medium;">Don't make another decision until you read <i>Living with an Aspergers Partner.</i></span><br /><br />
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<i>What reasons might make you want to stay together:</i></div>
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<li style="text-align: justify;">Divorce is against your religion?</li>
<li style="text-align: justify;">For the children’s sake?</li>
<li style="text-align: justify;">For safety and security reasons?</li>
<li style="text-align: justify;">It would be too expensive to start over?</li>
<li style="text-align: justify;">You are afraid of being alone?</li>
<li style="text-align: justify;">You are concerned what others will think?</li>
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What if I told you it doesn't matter why you want to stay together – it only matters that you do. That's all it will take to make these strategies work …strategies that will not only save your relationship, but will make it better than it was before.</div>
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Emotions may be too raw right now for either of you to do what it takes to keep the relationship from steady decline. That’s why this step-by-step guide could be a real life-saver, because it will walk you through exactly what is required in order to change ...to grow ...and to recover!<br />
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<li>you feel isolated, alone and confused</li>
<li>you can't seem to resolve anything with your partner</li>
<li>you feel like you are not being respected or heard by him/her</li>
<li>you are frustrated about how much effort you are putting into this relationship</li>
<li>you find that spending more time together just seems to make things worse</li>
<li>you want to fall in love with your partner again</li>
<li>you want your partner to fall in love with you again</li>
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Consider downloading your copy of <i><b>Living with an Aspergers Partner</b></i>. You’ve got nothing to lose since this program comes with an unconditional, money-back guarantee. In the unlikely event that the techniques do not significantly improve your relationship <i>within 30 days or less</i>, then simply email me for a prompt and complete refund. Sound fair?<br />
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<b>Testimonial:</b> <i>We really thought we had a hopeless case until we found your ebook. We had no idea that things could have worked out as they have. You have no idea the misery (and the expense) you saved us. We are not married and probably never will be. But our relationship is still very important because we have two children together. Thanks for helping us. ~ Rhonda and Ryan</i><b> </b><br />
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<b>Testimonial:</b><i> I stumbled across your website and must confess that it has been a great blessing to </i><i>me for the last week. After reading through </i><i>your straight-to-the-point ebook, I feel I am </i><i>starting to find some meaning in my life </i><i>again. Much of what you say requires that I </i><i>honestly examine myself, and that is exactly </i><i>what I am doing now. ~ Joel</i><br />
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Why did you come to this site? Is your relationship in trouble? Were you hoping to find something here that would help you solve the problems and get things “back to normal” again? Or do you want your relationship to be even better than before – better than you ever thought possible?<br />
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Do you feel like the only choice is between (a) accepting things as they are now - no matter how bad they get, or (b) leaving your partner?<br />
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If you really want to save your relationship, then you have come to the right place. I created <i><b>Living with an Aspergers Partner</b></i> with YOU in mind (i.e., a partner affected by the condition), so that you can get immensely satisfying results with your relationship FAST …even if you are experiencing severe communication barriers and you are the only one who wants to work on it!<br />
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<b><i>Living with an Aspergers Partner</i></b> is the most practical, easy-to-follow and comprehensive program available today for partners affected by the condition. Thousands of people worldwide, just like you, have used these unique strategies to put themselves on the “relationship-rescue” fast-track, while regaining their inner happiness in the process. Will you be next?<br />
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<li style="text-align: left;"><span>Sexuality Issues Related to Aspergers</span></li>
<li style="text-align: left;"><span>Dating Strategies</span></li>
<li style="text-align: left;"><span>Being a Partner</span></li>
<li style="text-align: left;"><span>Living with Aspergers</span></li>
<li style="text-align: left;"><span>Aspergers Men and Relationship Difficulties</span></li>
<li style="text-align: left;"><span>Aspergers Women and Relationship Difficulties</span></li>
<li style="text-align: left;"><span>Helping Yourself Through Times of Depression</span></li>
<li style="text-align: left;"><span>Dealing with Resentment</span></li>
<li style="text-align: left;"><span>Relationship Strategies for Aspergers Partners</span></li>
<li style="text-align: left;"><span>Love and Affection</span></li>
<li style="text-align: left;"><span>Traits Women Find Attractive in Aspergers Men</span></li>
<li style="text-align: left;"><span>Traits Men Find Attractive in Aspergers Women</span></li>
<li style="text-align: left;"><span>Aspergers Men and Emotions</span></li>
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<li style="text-align: left;"><span>Parenting Strategies for Aspergers Fathers</span></li>
<li style="text-align: left;"><span>Parenting Strategies for Aspergers Mothers</span></li>
<li style="text-align: left;"><span>Strategies to Improve the Marriage</span></li>
<li style="text-align: left;"><span>How to Deal with an Aspergers Man</span></li>
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<b>Testimonial:</b> <i>Dear Mr Hutten, Thank you so much for your supportive email. I am a General Practitioner Doctor in the UK and have only just worked out what our relationship problem is. It has taken 2 years of arguments. It is such a relief, we have gone from being at loggerheads to having insight on both sides & now we are being kind to each other. Now we know what the problem is we can try to work with it, I am willing and so is he. Your seminar and e book are superb and we can related to nearly every word. Thank you for being so smart to have studied this topic and having pragmatic tips based on your clinical experience! You are a true life saver/ happiness saver. ~ Deb</i><br />
<br />You're about to learn simple, easy strategies to solve almost any relationship conflict associated with the condition. Whether you are stressed out by your inability to communicate properly with your partner/spouse, want to improve your emotional/physical intimacy, need to resolve specific and complicated issues, or simply want to put your relationship/marriage back on the right track, then this eBook will be <i>your best purchase of the year</i>.</div>
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You may have tried numerous ineffective methods to “fix” or <i>improve</i> your relationship, without even knowing it. This isn't your fault. Many partners affected by Aspergers have searched far and wide for the right information that will improve their situation – but not all advice out there is "the right" advice.</div>
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Many people who are struggling in their relationships due to Autism-related issues have had advice from “expert” marriage counselors …they’ve tried their plans …they've spent a lot of money on their services …they may have even tried a trial separation …and now they're still looking for answers because all their hard work/time/money has done very little to improve their situation. They’re still stuck with the same old unresolved issues.</div>
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<b>Why?</b> Because most marriage counselors do not know the first thing about Aspergers or how it affects intimate relationships.</div>
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<b>The hard truth is this:</b> It would be a whole lot easier - and a lot less painful - to simply beat your head against a brick wall than to continue "working" on your relationship <u>in the dark</u>. I’m going on record as saying<i> 'hard work on your relationship isn't the answer'.</i> As I'm sure you know, there is such a thing as "working hard" - and then there is "working smart." <u>Hard work</u> has gotten you nowhere - and it never will.<br />
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If you are really truly tired of wasting time and energy trying to change your partner, then this information is going to be a break-through for you. A solution is just 5 minutes away.<br />
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Before telling you what you'll find in <b><i>Living with an Aspergers Partner</i></b>, I want to tell you what this program is NOT about…<br />
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<i>What it IS about:</i><br />
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<li><b>Finding effective ways to cope with a challenging disorder called Aspergers</b></li>
<li><b>Supporting your partner in his/her goals and aspirations in a way where you grow together</b></li>
<li><b>Ultimately learning to have a lot of fun and intimacy together again</b></li>
<li><b>Understanding why people with Aspergers think, feel, and behave the way they do</b></li>
<li><b>Getting your life as a whole back on track, outside of your relationship</b></li>
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Using the methods outlined in <i><b>Living with an Aspergers Partner</b></i>, hundreds of couples have bounced back <span style="font-weight: normal;">from a vast range of seemingly irreversible problems, such as:</span></div>
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<li><span style="font-weight: normal;">a suffocating partner</span></li>
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<li><span style="font-weight: normal;">excessive fighting</span></li>
<li><span style="font-weight: normal;">extra-marital affairs</span></li>
<li><span style="font-weight: normal;">ineffective or not enough communication</span></li>
<li><span style="font-weight: normal;">lack of intimacy</span></li>
<li><span style="font-weight: normal;">not enough quality time for busy schedules</span></li>
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I strongly believe that with the right information, virtually anyone can have the relationship of their dreams.<br />
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<b>Testimonial:</b> <i>I just finished 'Living with an Aspergers Partner' and it was outstanding. Short, straight to the point and very easy to understand. I will begin to implement the 'fair-fighting' strategies tonight. ~ Kristi</i><br />
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<b>Testimonial:</b> <i>Since I began reading “Living with an Aspergers Partner,” I am changed and I have also given my boyfriend some reading to do. He has also improved. Thanks so much for your advice and help! Our relationship has made some great breakthroughs and we are </i><i>soon getting married! After reading your ebook, we are now in love again and we do as much as we can to create quality time for one another. ~ Jill</i><br />
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<b>Testimonial:</b> <i>IF you are even THINKING about starting a divorce, you need to read this BEFORE you hire your attorney!! ~ Elizabeth</i><br />
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Well, you have to actually work the program! Most people who fail do so because they never take action …or they fear it is already too late …or they worry what their partner and others may think. They don't have the patience or desire to save their relationship. They either give up and settle for a miserable lackluster life, or they get a divorce. Like too many other couples who have struggled with Autism-related issues, they see the problems as simply "too big to fix."<br />
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If you really truly want a loving partner who will work with you as a team-player throughout your relationship, and if you want to be respected by your friends and your partner as someone who takes great care of his/her family, then there is no doubt in my mind this program will work for you.<br />
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<b>Picture this:</b><br />
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It's a month from today, and your relationship is so strong that all your friends are remarking how happy you and your partner seem to be. You've recovered from the previous stress and disappointment that you went through, and you are in a much happier place than you are now. Even better, you know that it would take a team of wild horses to tear you and your partner apart now.<br />
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Now, stop and look back on today. Considering that you've resolved this major crisis in your life, and know that you will never be as stressed by it again in the future, what price tag would have made it a good investment?<br />
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<b>Here are 5 good reasons to start working this program today:</b><br />
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1. To date over 43,000 couples have used the techniques outlined in <b><i>Living with an Aspergers Partner</i></b> to rescue their relationship. Now you have the opportunity to be next.<br />
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2. From all my years of counseling couples affected by Aspergers, I’ve discovered this: If you don't make the decision to take action and get this area of your life sorted out right now, it’s not likely you'll do anything about it in the future. Do you really want to leave your relationship – and life in general – to chance? You owe it to yourself and to your partner to make an informed decision and to give your relationship the best possible chance of long-term success.<br />
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3. In addition to the eBook, you will receive free email-based consultation to ensure that your specific relationship issues are resolved once and for all. That’s right! After you read the eBook, you can email me as often as needed, and I will help you trouble-shoot any problem-areas that still need to be addressed.<br />
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4. With your instant money-back guarantee, there is literally NO RISK for you. If you aren't satisfied <i>for ANY reason</i>, or it doesn't live up to your expectations, just send me an email [<a href="mailto:mbhutten@gmail.com">mbhutten@gmail.com</a>] and I will refund your payment …right up to and including the final day of my 30-day guarantee.<br />
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5. Within five minutes from now, you can gain instant download access and start saving your relationship! Inside <i><b>Living with an Aspergers Partner</b></i>, you will receive everything you need to know about (a) Autism in adults, (b) how it affects relationships, and (c) how to make adjustments accordingly ...so that you and your partner can change, grow and recover – even if your partner doesn't want to work on it!</div>
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I can - and will - help you, but you’re the one who will have to take some action. I can’t do it <i>for</i> you!</div>
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The Aspergers plus "NT" (i.e., neurotypical) couples I work with have tried very hard to address their relationship difficulties on their own, but with little or no success. And it seems the harder they try, the worse it gets. </div>
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They say they’ve <i>tried everything</i> to improve their relationship. But after a few sessions with me, they come to realize that they have not tried <u>everything</u>, rather they have tried <u>some things</u>.</div>
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There is no need for you to continue living as a frustrated, stressed-out partner/spouse. If you will read my eBook, and then email me for follow-up consultation (if needed), then you will achieve the same success as hundreds of others.</div>
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After years of living in a stressful and unsatisfying relationship, many partners feel so defeated that they believe nothing (nobody) will be able to help them – they think it’s simply “too late.” But I promise you – it is NOT too late!!</div>
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No. I'm not a “miracle worker,” but you don't need a miracle to get your relationship on a good track – you simply need the right strategies that apply specifically to a condition called "Aspergers."</div>
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Take a step of faith. There's absolutely nothing to lose, but a lot to be potentially gained.</div>
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<b>About the Author</b></div>
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<b><span style="color: #666666;">Mark Hutten, M.A.</span></b> is the creator of <i>Online Parent Support, LLC</i>. He is a practicing counseling psychologist and parent-coach with more than 20 years’ experience. He has worked with hundreds of children, teens, adults and couples with Aspergers and High-Functioning Autism (HFA), and presents workshops and runs training courses for families and professionals who deal with ASD. Also, Mark is a prolific author of articles and ebooks on the subject.</div>
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<div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;">If you have any questions about <i>Living with an Aspergers Partner</i>, or the <i>Email Consultation</i> service included in this program, email {<a href="mailto:mbhutten@gmail.com">mbhutten@gmail.com</a>}.</div>
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<div style="text-align: center;"><div style="text-align: left;">==> <a href="https://livingwithanaspergerspartner.blogspot.com/2016/01/more-testimonials.html" target="_blank">MORE TESTIMONIALS</a></div><div style="text-align: left;"><br /></div>
<span><div style="text-align: left;">==> <a href="https://www.livingwithaspergerspartner.com/2016/01/frequently-asked-questions.html" target="_blank">FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS</a></div><div style="text-align: left;"><br /></div>
<span><div style="text-align: left;">==> <a href="https://www.myoutofcontrolteen.com/Skype-Counseling-for-Adults-with-Aspergers.html" target="_blank">MARK HUTTEN'S BIOGRAPHY</a></div></span></span><div style="text-align: left;"><br /></div>
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<span>Would you prefer marriage counseling? If so, I will work with you one-on-one, preferably including your partner/spouse. Here's more info: </span><span><a href="https://www.adultaspergerschat.com/2019/07/skype-counseling-for-struggling-couples.html" target="_blank">Skype Counseling for Struggling Couples Affected by Asperger's and HFA</a></span><br />
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<b>One of many Testimonials:</b>
<i>Thank you so much for the counseling session. The one hour we had with you today was far more beneficial than the numerous hours we spent with other counselors trying to find effective ways to communicate. Your session was extremely helpful and I am willing to do everything that you suggested. My husband also said he liked how you provided us with an action plan right away. We both said that it’s the first time that both of us felt like someone understood each of our perspectives. We are looking forward to talking to you again soon.
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Every counselor who works with Aspergers couples will benefit from the strategies presented in this material. Many therapists who were not well-versed in the special needs of these individuals are now better equipped to help their clients avoid conflict and resultant separation or divorce.</div>
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Ideally, both the "Aspie" and the partner without Aspergers will participate.</div>
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No. Ideally both people will read and implement the strategies …this will provide the greatest possibility of a positive outcome. However, many have reported good success with the program even though the Aspergers partner did not see a problem with the relationship and had no interest in working on it.</div>
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Absolutely. You’re in a much better position than most. Research states that 80% of people affected by Aspergers who get married also get divorced (and many never get married at all). This is due mainly to the lack of information out there regarding what adjustments need to be made in a unique relationship like this. A partner with any disorder – Aspergers or otherwise – will need special consideration. So, you’re willingness to hang-in there is both impressive and admirable. Better to trouble-shoot while the ‘relationship problems’ are small rather than wait for years of resentment to build-up.</div>
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You should notice positive changes in your partner and in yourself the very first day you use the strategies outlined in ‘Living with an Aspergers Partner’. As you begin to implement the techniques outlined in the program, you will see even more significant, long-lasting and positive changes in your relationship. Dealing with Aspergers traits will become easier and much less confusing.</div>
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Not really. Age or ‘duration of relationship’ is not nearly as important as (a) under- standing how Aspergers affects adults and relationships, (b) learning how to deal with the Aspergers partner’s weaknesses, and (c) how to capitalize on his/her strengths.</div>
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<i>I'm not sure my husband has Aspergers. He has a lot of the traits, but no formal diagnosis. Would this eBook apply to me and my situation?</i></div>
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Many individuals pursue neuropsychological testing with a neuropsychologist (PhD) or a psychiatrist (MD). As a result of this testing, it may be determined that the individual has Aspergers, something related to Aspergers, or something different. This will give a fairly full picture of strengths and challenges and of how one’s brain processes information.</div>
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<i>Is it ever too late to discover Aspergers or seek a diagnosis?</i></div>
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It is never too late for an individual to increase self-awareness in order to capitalize on strengths and work around areas of challenge. Knowing about Aspergers gives The individual an explanation, not an excuse, for why his or her life has taken the twists and turns that it has. What one does with this information at the age of 20, 50 or 70 may differ, but it is still very important information to have.</div>
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Yes. My bias is that it is better to know than not to know. If you have Aspergers and don’t know, it affects you anyway; if you do know, you may be able to minimize the negative impact and leverage the positive. Without the knowledge that one has Aspergers, one often fills that void with other, more damaging explanations such as failure, weird, disappointment, not living up to one’s potential, etc.</div>
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Lead with strengths! Most people with Aspergers have significant areas of strength, even if this has not been translatable into tangible success. Bring up areas of strength with the person with suspected Aspergers.</div>
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Then, suggest to them that there is a name for that confusing combination of strengths and challenges, and it may be Aspergers. You may lead them to <a href="http://www.myaspergerschild.com/">www.MyAspergersChild.com</a> or other resources for further information. Provide support along the way.</div>
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<b>Do you have a question? Feel free to email Mark Hutten, M.A. at <a href="mailto:mbhutten@gmail.com">mbhutten@gmail.com</a></b></div>
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Hi Mark, Finding this book and your workshops has been an answer to many years of prayer. I am not sure if many people thank you for your work. But I will! I have started reading and am into the first 20 pages and I don’t think anybody could have put it any better in words. You nailed what I’m feeling and what I’m going through exactly. Reading so far is helping me understand myself, my husband and what I need to do/or understand to make this marriage work. Thank you so much for your heart to help people and your gift in doing so. ~ Sylvana<br />
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Thank you for the practical tips that I can really work on to be proactive in salvaging my relationship with my Aspergers husband. The true examples from real people gave me insight that you can really survive in an relationship like this. ~ Gayle<br />
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When I read that section on the stereotypes about Aspergers men, I didn't want to believe they were wrong. I mean, these are the things I believed! But the more I thought about it, the more it explained a lot of the problems I've had dealing with my husband. I wish I knew this stuff back when we first got married. Things would sure be a lot different today. Thanks for finally telling me how Aspies really think! ~ Angie<br />
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The “Living with an Aspergers Partner” ebook was very instrumental in helping my husband and myself understand each other by learning to communicate love words, to respect each other’s space, and to speak up when annoyed and not harbor anger. We were on the verge of divorce, thinking there was no way to repair the damage. Your ebook was a Godsend. After years of uncertainties, we are happy that we found your website and ebook. We worked it out and stayed together!! We will celebrate our 16th anniversary this year! ~ Kay and Michael<br />
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As a Marriage and Family Therapist who works with couples, I have found "Living with an Aspergers Partner" a practical resource for helping my clients. Please continue to spread the word about Aspergers, because there are so many practicing clinicians out there that really should NOT be giving advice to their Aspergers clients. As I have discovered through reading your material, what works with a "typical" couple does NOT work with an "Aspergers" couple. Thanks for enlightening me. ~ Rebecca<br />
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The biggest benefit I have gained from “Living with an Aspergers Partner” was perspective. There were so many lessons about how to look at what was happening in my life from a different angle. I needed clarity and hope – and your ebook gave me that. Also, you email correspondence was priceless. Thank you so much. ~ Jason<br />
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Just wanted to say thank you sooo much for the amazing advice in your ebook. Yesterday was that all important "date night" -- and it was absolutely fantastic... I just had an email from him saying what a great time he had and how he can't believe how fun it was to be together. Also back when we split up, your ebook picked me up out of the mud when I was feeling the worst I ever felt in my life, and doing all the things you advised gave me a lifeline -- now I am so much stronger and happier. I'm still going to take things slowly with my ex (I'm not at the end of your plan yet!!) but I can't believe how well life is going only 1 month after I felt like I was half dead. Thank you so much. ~ Kim<br />
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Yes, I've learned a lot from this ebook. Thank you so much. I am saving every lesson so I can just read it all over again, probably with my husband. More power to you and God bless. ~ Annette<br />
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In my counseling practice, I've often seen couples affected by Asperger Syndrome who divorced because they didn't factor in the related issues and had very little working knowledge of the disorder and how it affects the marriage. Personally, I see this as a great tragedy since most of these marriages could have been saved. Thanks for enriching my understanding of this disorder and its impact on the family. ~ Jonathon<br />
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Your ebook was an eye-opener. I enjoyed how it was structured and presented. It gave me insight on where to begin and how to continue in my relationship with my Aspie husband. Thank you for listening and being there for me. Your email consultation was a guiding light during a very dark time in my life. Thanks Mark! ~ Jeannette<br />
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Just wanted to thank you and let you know how much you have helped me. I followed your guide after a very bitter breakup of a two-year relationship with a man who has Aspergers. The breakup started out being one of the most difficult things I have ever attempted in my life, and after the initial two weeks I started feeling stronger each day and better about myself. My ex sent me an apology email three weeks in ...By now, I had the strength to actually "sleep on it" and sent him a response the next day...within seconds he called me and asked to see me and was crying because he was glad I was talking to him. We are starting out very slowly again as friends (which is difficult for me since I am still deeply in love with him). But I think that we can make it work this second time around because now I see that a lot of his behavior was due to his Aspergers disorder and had nothing to do with him being selfish or uncaring. Your information has given me new insight. Thank you. ~ Tina<br />
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My marriage is experiencing a tremendous transformation. I, on behalf of my wife, am very grateful to you Mark for helping us. Your follow-up emails were also a big factor in why I'm not divorced today. ~ Richard<br />
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I have spent countless dollars trying to get help and was sadly disappointed in all until now with you. Living with an Aspergers Partner has been a blessing to our family and we all thank you. ~ Tracy and Keith<br />
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Just wanted to let you know your advice is so rational and so sound... At such a horrible and tough time it is reassuring to read the correct way to relate to someone with Aspergers. A lot of people don't realize how simple and easy it is, patience is a virtue and because of you ... I am now dating the love of my life again, we were together for 4 years, split for only 2 1/2 months and are now back together. ~ Katherine<br />
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The fear I always have is that an ebook won't match up to the sales buzz created on the promotional site, but your guide certainly delivers the value that you promised. I scanned through it and was very impressed by how thoroughly you covered many topics that truly define the Aspergers man. I am working on myself now and preparing to make the necessary changes in my attitude and behavior so that my next relationship will not end like the previous one. I especially liked the 'Fair Fighting' section. Thanks a million. ~ Dwayne<br />
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I feel very lucky and blessed that we were able to turn our marriage around like this. My spouse with Aspergers used to spend as much time as he could in the garage. Now we are so in love again, and its funny ...now he had to go away for the week ...we have been talking on the phone every day. We can't wait to see each other again! ~ Beth<br />
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Just an email to personally thank you for the great advice in your ebook. Have to tell you that I was a bit skeptical at first, but now I truly understand how effective your advice is. I ordered your ebook when I was at the peak level of depression, and right now I am at the peak level of excitement about the future with my sweetheart. Cheers! ~ Kayla<br />
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I’ve never felt more in charge of my life. Right since the day I started reading your ebook till now it's been nothing but wonderful. My whole point of view about my Aspergers partner has changed. I haven't even used half your strategies and I am already seeing such an improvement in how we get along. Thank you very much for your support. ~ Jackie<br />
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I seriously thought there was no hope left for me and my wife. She wanted to get rid of me at all costs. I was in more pain than I can possibly describe. We both followed the advice in your ebook and Teresa and I are back again. Mark, you're a genius. Thank you for saving me. ~ Shawn<br />
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I wish I had read your book earlier. I could have saved so much time I wasted on dealing with the pain and emotions for years. Your relationship techniques really helped me deal with my partner with Asperger Syndrome. I finally understand how to relate to him now. Thanks a ton. ~ Candice<br />
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I feel as though my eyes are open for the first time. I had been attributing negative motives to my husband's behavior, for example: "he just doesn't care" ..."he's tired and bored with this relationship" ..."he just doesn't love me anymore" ...and so on. But after reading your ebook, I see that these behaviors were not malicious in nature, it's just how he deals with the world. This tidbit of information alone has made such a big difference in how we relate. I appreciate your work. ~ Sarah<br />
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Having read your ebook, I now have a better understanding of AS and the situation I am in. I have started to adjust myself and try to see things from his perspective. I am also not as depressed as before, as I now understand that there is a reason for his "unreasonable" behaviour, and I try not to take it personally. Our relationship has improved, there is less conflict between us and we have started talking to each other again. ~ Bonnie<br />
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Hi, Im also a clinician and found this so helpful for my practice!! I was dating someone with Aspergers and I thought I understood everything but he just could not commit and he would not go to counseling to understand how his relationships failed. Your audio instruction really turned the light on and I'm so happy that I bought it. Best $19.00 I ever spent. ~ Anastasia<br />
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Thanks for the information. I have an 11-year-old who has Aspergers. I now believe his father also has it. I believe he has learned over the years how to compensate for its manifestations. Unfortunately, we had filed for divorce before I read your ebook. It is such a difficult illness to handle with your child, but when it is your spouse, it is unbelievable the damage it can do to your relationship. In any event, your information is helping me deal with my child’s father, even though we are no longer married – there are still issues that I need help with. (Wish I had access to this info this time last year.) ~ Marilynn<br />
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My son was diagnosed with Aspergers when he was 5. He is now 8. My husband had been diagnosed with ADHD a few years before our son was born, but the ADHD meds never helped him. When I put my son on the GFCF (gluten-free, casein-free) diet, he made huge gains very quickly. So, my husband went GFCF as well. It actually helped my husband too. Later, my husband was diagnosed with Aspergers. I love both my boys, but I can't live this way any longer. I have lost myself inside interventions, compromises, and sacrifices. I need a husband to support all that I do for my son (biomedical, therapies, preschool, research, etc.), but he only models the very behaviors I am trying to replace. We are newly separated after a month that included the typical communication difficulties, a physical attack on me, and socially inappropriate behavior towards my grandmother. I am heartbroken because I know that, for my husband (not my son), this is a life sentence. I don't want to live the rest of my life depressed, embarrassed, and in a parent-child relationship. So, I’m going to give 'Living with an Aspergers Partner' a try. Thank you for this information. I trust it will help us all at some level. ~ Virginia<br />
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I am in love and married to a man with "Aspergers- like" characteristics (not sure if he actually has the disorder). We have a successful marriage and our lives are well. Occasionally, I will become emotionally exhausted, but this relates partially to my hormonal changes monthly and the fact I am getting older. Thanks to the guidance in your program, I now have limits, we are setting boundaries, and communicating mostly well. We have just had a wonderful turn around. Mainly because I realized I do not have to be right all the time and I do not need to be so defensive with everything. I am a physical medicine researcher and therapist and have experience working with autistic/adhd children. But these experiences did not help me to be more patient even though I understand the neurochemistry behind Aspergers. It wasn’t until I read your ebook that I started responding to my husband "the right way", which has made all the difference in the world in how we communicate. Your emails over the last several weeks have really been a support to me as well. ~ Stephanie<br />
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I am an NT and my husband has Aspergers. He was diagnosed at the age of 35 (last year). We have been married for 7 years. It's been a tough road, but one worth traveling. Traits of those on the Autism spectrum can be endearing. Your ebook has helped me to see the positives that I used to see in my husband, but lost sight of over the years; he has many more strengths than weaknesses – and I needed to be reminded of that. My husband is very loyal and trustworthy. He wants to be home and spend time with his family. He's socially "blind" and doesn't like chit chat. A conversation should have purpose, in his mind. He's the most determined man I know and I respect him with my whole being. I would rather have a strong, determined, loyal husband than one that can socialize at a dinner party. Maybe some have all of that ...count your blessings. ~ Jenny<br />
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Hi Mark - I'm an Aspergers husband who fits all the characteristics that you talk about. It was, unfortunately, destroying my marriage. I had no idea what to do about it though -- until now. You've given me some tools, and they are working. I'm not going to lie -- it has been very difficult to follow through with most of the suggestions in your book -- none of this comes natural to me -- but I am taking it one day at a time and am beginning to see my wife smile again. You've worked a miracle in my life. That's all I can say. ~ Vaughn<br />
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Dear Mark, Thank you so much for your clear, concise and extremely helpful information about Aspergers. We have been on the verge of a divorce the last few months after a 20 year marriage and your information has helped to clarify the fact that my husband may be contributing to our demise. He wants to blame me for 100%, but I feel like I am reacting to HIS personality and am getting more resentful as the years go on. I feel lonely and I feel like our home has been an emotional desert because of his lack of affection and affiliatory behavior that you talk about in your videos. It just wasn’t clear until I had your information but now I feel we have a goal to work on and can be better than ever. ~ Shelly<br />
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Oh my gosh....thank you, thank you, THANK YOU!!! I can not believe I stumbled upon your audio on Living With an Aspergers Partner! I cried...and cried some more! Thank you!!! I finally feel validated and if it's not too late I am going to try to help my marriage. We have been married just recently 27 years. I won't bore you with the history because you know it. My husband is definitely Aspergers. He did accept an ADD-inattention diagnosis after our 2nd child was diagnosed. Not because our first was diagnosed with a list of issues an arms length long (my husband was in denial over this for years until I finally relented and put the child on medications. My husband finally acknowledged the doctor's may not be crazy! Mind you we live in a major city with incredible resources and world renowned Children's Hospitals which I trust). When the 2nd child was diagnosed I suggested my husband be tested and he went ballistic and refused until he heard a Physician give a talk at the Intermediary Unit that was ADD and he completely identified with her and walked out white as a sheet. My oldest was diagnosed at age 6 with PDD-NOS. As time went on Aspergers was obvious, however, I did not need to get an updated diagnosis as he had the best services he could obtain already. I thought, why label. As he grew and aged I began seeing concerns, especially in romantic relationships (he is now almost 25) so I got my hands on a couple books to learn more about Aspergers and men in relationships and OF COURSE while I was highlighting like crazy, I realized I had put just as many yellow marks next to valid points that related to my husband as to my son! This was a light bulb moment for me but there would be no one who would ever care to accept that realization along with me, most especially my husband. Your audio sessions are textbook of my marriage. Including taking the thoughts right out my head when you mentioned the man who would deny an Aspergers diagnosis due to social norms and masculine role socialization! I am going to try to find a time...I don't know when, to see if I can get him to listen to the sessions. We have both threatened and almost resigned ourselves to divorce once our youngest goes to college in another year, however, that will be devastating for our three boys, the oldest especially, who is in law school and I just couldn't do that to him his last year. So anyway, if we can hold on...I accepted the status of this relationship in so many different stages, including the resentment light bulb moment about 20 years ago, and all the progressions in between. I am pretty certain I'd be far too exhausted, should we divorce, after dealing with this marriage and the three kids and all their baggage that I would never venture into another serious relationship, so may as well try to acclimate better to this one. Sorry for the rambling. Thank you for allowing me to email...it really helps. No counselor I have ever spoken to, nor any my husband ever attempted to work with (failing miserably at this since he can't emote and dig deep regarding anything!) has EVER understood where I was coming from. Made me really feel like a selfish brat. I have given every bit of myself, and then dug deeper when I couldn't any longer to help my family. I am exhausted... With my sincerest thanks! ~ Miriam<br />
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Dear Mr. Hutten, I must start by expressing my immense gratitude for all your work. Your articles, books, and videos have been a life saver and a motivator for me to try again to repair my marriage. I started googling and reading and I came across your youtube videos. What an eye opener!!! An understatement. I started to understand that everything I knew in my heart that wasn't right, had a name and a reason for it. Something beyond my capacity to change. I downloaded your Ebook on Living with an Aspergers partner. I am 40% through it and already see some improvements. Thank you! ~ Dena<br />
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Mark, thank YOU, for the work that you do to help those of us who are on, or live with someone on the spectrum. I have been married for 20 years, to a man who was just finally diagnosed in October, 2017. Our youngest son, now 17, was recently diagnosed, as well. I find some of the support groups for NT spouses to be " toxic" at times, with people hurting-- including myself...so, I wanted to reach and express my gratitude to you, directly. Thank you. ~ Kari<br />
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Thank you Mark. You're a genius, as is your material. I've come to the realization my wife has Asperger's and I'm the NT. The strict adherence to routine became one of the first indicators. In your 1st audio, if you reverse the gender roles, is how my relationship has been with my wife for 30 years. Your accurate account and characterization of the resentment I feel towards my wife is uncanny. I'm so glad I found your information on youtube. Your information has given me a lot to think about. ~ Alex <br />
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